I’m not one for New Years resolutions and the whole new year, new me, business – mainly because I don’t stick to them. Who wants to give up chocolate anyway? But I do think the new year gives everyone a chance to better themselves and to also challenge themselves in certain aspects. This year I told myself not to set any resolutions in a bid to stop putting too much pressure on myself whilst I’m away from home and travelling. Although I have taken some time to reflect on what we should all focus on in 2018.
Last year I learnt a lot. All through different experiences and being inspired by things out of the blue. Whether it’s reading a blog or listening to a new song, sometimes things occur that switch you on a bit more to what really matters in life.
Body image and confidence are a big one for me and for most people of all ages, both male and female. Last year I took time to realise that no matter where you look or how hard you try, the perfect body just doesn’t exist, and I will never have the body I see all over social media. Why? Because the reality is, we all come in different shapes and sizes and that’s what makes us humans different and unique. I’m a big believer of embracing the way you look, the way you are, and the body you have no matter how big or small you are.
An hour walking around Melbourne has opened my eyes to the fashion industry. I find that people stress so much on owning all of the latest trends because society tells you what’s in and what’s not. Clothes are clothes, and it really doesn’t matter what you wear even if it isn’t considered fashionable. As I’ve got older, I wear comfort. Don’t get me wrong, if I see something I like I will buy it, but it’s never because it’s what everybody else is wearing as that shouldn’t matter. It’s because I genuinely like the item. But there are so many times where I’ve come across people who won’t wear a specific item of clothing because it isn’t seen as cool anymore, or because it’s not a trend. And that’s bull. If something makes you happy, wear it. Don’t do what everybody else is doing just to seem ‘with it’, there are more important things to be worried about.
I don’t believe anyone who says that they have never compared themselves to other people. We all waste so much of our energy on focusing on what other people are doing, what they own and what they own, instead of using that energy to put into ourselves. Everybody is different, and we can’t all have what we want, so focus on being you. And rather than comparing ourselves, try to better ourselves.
I’ve spent so long worrying about what job I’ll have when I finish university, how much money I’ll earn and whether or not I’ll even land a good job, so instead I came travelling. I was worried that it was wrong because I didn’t know what I wanted in life and I had no idea what field of work I wanted to head into after spending 4 years at university. But I guess that’s alright, and everything will work out eventually. I think there’s too much pressure put onto young people regarding jobs and education, and there’s a surrounded stress what you should and what you shouldn’t do in order to do well. If I’ve realised anything, most things will fall into place in one way or another, and unexpected journeys will lead you to understanding more about what you want.
What People Think
Once again, a big learning curve for me. Throughout my life I have always worried about what people think of me. What I’m doing, what I’m wearing, what I enjoy, and it’s stupid. Only recently I’ve grasped the “stop giving a shit” attitude and I’ve been so much more happier for it. I love the idea behind “do what makes you happy” and we should be encouraged to wear what we want, so what we want and to believe in what we want without feeling self conscious and worrying about what other people around you think.