Travelling has opened up a new space I never thought I had. I’ve had more space to breathe, to focus on a more positive mindset and it has given me the chance to reflect on what I really want out of my life in the future. I’ve said before, New Years Resolutions aren’t for me, more because I can’t stick to them to save my life, but 2018 has felt different to other years.
I’ve had an incredible start to the year and I think that’s why positivity has taken over recently. I thought it would be a good idea to write down little challenges for myself and for others to try throughout the year, in order to become a better person.
Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. We waste so much energy moaning about things we can’t change, without realising how lucky we are to have the things around us.
It doesn’t hurt to smile, even on those bad days when everything is going wrong for you, and you never know, you could make someone’s day. I guarantee your life will become a happier place.
Cut Down on Negativity
I wouldn’t say I’m a negative person but I am guilty of finding the negatives in things if I’m not 100% happy with something. On a bad day, I can easily find a negative in just about anything and it brings me down even more. Recently I’ve decided to find the positive in things, even if the cons outweigh the pros.
Put My Phone Down
Guilty. Like most people in today’s society, My head is buried in my phone throughout the majority of the day, I’m unaware of my surroundings and I am completely oblivious to any conversation going on around me. In Australia it has been easier to put my phone down a bit more. Unless I’m sat in a motel room doing nothing, I’ve started to leave my phone behind when visiting new and exciting places. It allows me to enjoy a moment without worrying about my phone or checking the Daily Mail 24/7.
Step Outside Comfort Zone
I did this when coming to Australia. I’m a real home-bird and I find it hard being away from my parents for a long period of time, but sometimes stepping away from your little bubble is a good thing. It doesn’t have to be as big as travelling to the other side of the world for a year, but anything slightly new that I don’t feel 100% comfortable with I’m just gonna do it. The rewards are far greater outside of my little comfort bubble.
Be More Optimistic
I guess this relates back to negativity. My boyfriend, Jack, is incredibly optimistic whenever we go anywhere no matter what situation we are in, and I find it really inspiring. Optimism means a healthier and positive attitude, particularly in negative situations. Remember, everything will work out in the end.
My attention span is pretty much none existent, but I do try my best to listen to other people. I’ve noticed half way through conversations that I literally have no idea what’s going on or what we’re talking about, and what bothers me more is that I know I’m not a rude person, I’m just easily distracted. Therefore, making more of an effort to listen to what anyone has to say to me is on the list. If it means putting my phone down and engaging in real life interaction, it’s worth it.
I used to be a real people pleaser, however recently I’ve adapted the “say no” approach to life. If I don’t want to do something, I’m not going to do it. It’s quite simple to be honest. Nobody should feel the need to do anything because they feel like they have to, and it takes a strong minded person to have the balls to say no. But life will become easier, and even happier, if you start to do things for you and not other people.
Don’t be afraid to have fun and make a tit out of yourself. We have one life, and that’s it, so make the most of it. I love being daft and letting myself go everyday, especially when silliness lifts up my mood. I think having a silly side allows more happiness and laughter.
I’ve been a worrier my whole life, frequently stressing about scenarios out of my control. I’ve learnt recently that acceptance is key to having a positive attitude.
This year is the year for mindfulness. This is the biggest challenge for me, and it’s something I’ve wanted to focus on for a while. Like I’ve previously mentioned, I’m a worrier, so working out how to live in the moment without worrying about the past or future would be perfect for me.
Stop Comparing to the Impossible
I feel that as a society, we are all guilty of comparing ourselves to other people from all different aspects. Most recently I’ve compared my photography and writing content to the ‘big people’ and it’s pointless. Comparison isn’t going to get you anywhere but unhappy. Focus on you.
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